Three ways to impress the girl you like.

Whether it’s a deer defeating a rival, a peacock showing its feathers, or a bird of paradise dancing in front of a better female than Joaquín Cortés in front of the Got Talent jury, the animal kingdom is full of examples of males doing their best to impress females.

Let’s just say that we have a reproduction instinct far above the sense of ridicule.

Especially us humans. It’s normal, the competition is fierce and to attract a woman we have to impress her somehow says Pleasure Measured

Most of the things we think a woman will like are wrong. Or worse, the wrong woman may like them.

The day of revelation.

I remember when I was eighteen. It has rained a lot since then, but there is an episode that I have engraved in my memory.

I skated with those inline skates that specialize in aggressive street skating, which is a skating style characterized by using street furniture, benches, curbs and steps to do tricks while praying not to break your head or any limb.

Well, in my city there is a big unevenness in a certain part and there are some stairs to get around it. I was upstairs. Below, a group of girls, about my age, with whom to have an adventure. Or flirt with the ugliest, at that time I didn’t care.

When I was eighteen, all I wanted was to have one-night stands with someone. Or two minutes. I insist, it didn’t matter. Touching breasts the time it takes her to react and say “hey, we’ve only been dating for six months”. Whatever.

So, the only way to flirt with a stranger was to try to impress her.

I’ve never been very handsome, but I have been skillful with some things, like skating.

So I jumped backwards, with my Rollerblade Chocolate skates, down the stairs. In front of a bunch of girls. Fifteen or twenty.

What milk.

I don’t know what hurt more: my chin bouncing, one by one, against all the steps or the girls’ laughs once I got up.

More than meeting a challenge, I was trying to impress a lot of girls. And it hurt. A lot.

That’s why, in this article, I’m going to try to give some advice on how to impress a woman without hurting you. Not physically, not spiritually.

And there are ways to impress in which you don’t have to look like a superior mammal in heat.

3 love tips and a desperate order.

Most appointments you have are going to be in person, and they should be. Cybersex is fine, but we all want to touch the person we like, right?

I could write a book on this subject (and I have) but for now I’m just going to tell you a few basic things.

There are three tips to follow when dating in person. And if you do, you’ll be on your way to having a partner.

The first impression is basic.
When it comes to going on a first date you have to go arranged. You won’t get a second chance to make a good first impression.

Truth be told, the image you project to others is important. In fact, it’s what matters most. Your image, your style and how you present yourself to the world.

It doesn’t matter how handsome or ugly you are (well, almost). Do you choose to be Mr. Fleas or Mr. Elegance?

In the world of business and enterprise you have to dress according to the role you have, but in the world of online dating (which sooner rather than later takes you to in-person dating) you have to dress for the role you want to have.

You have to dress to impress.

That doesn’t mean you have to go with levitating or head-to-toe dress with Gucci-type brands. What it means is that you have to project an image in which others see that you care about yourself.

We all have bad days, but imagine that there are two versions of you: one with a shirt full of custard stains, jeans dirtier than a commuter train and slippers with holes that let you see the potatoes in your socks. The other consists of a freshly ironed shirt, freshly bought jeans and a matching belt and socks.

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What look do you think will most impress a woman on her first date?

The first one, without a doubt.

For bad.

With the second he’ll think you’re a normal guy, with the first, well, you’re already meeting Mr. Fleas.

Mr. Fleas has not come to help the survivors of a tsunami in Southeast Asia, simply does not care at all about the image he projects to others.

And that’s why Mr. Fleas is a failure at the art of flirting except for a few rubble tips.

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Treat strangers with respect and kindness.
Being nice to others is sexy. Being kind and respectful to others (especially if you are in a disadvantaged position) is something that impresses almost all women.

A friend who runs a writer’s agency once told me:

“What puts me most in a man is his ability to empathize with others and be kind, apart from a good po…, of course.

Here is the Kama Sutra summarized in one sentence. Fucking writers.

Also, according to my friend, a man who is sensitive and able to relate to young children, asking them serious questions and listening to what they have to say without treating them like people with cognitive disabilities is a sexy guy.

Likewise, a man who is able to spend some time talking to a person who lives on the street and end the conversation by giving him a couple of euros is sexy.

The truth is that I agree with my friend. I think a woman would make me a hundred if she did the same.

As long as it’s like cheese, of course.

(Don’t laugh, maybe my standards of what a good cheese is have more to do with a goat, which smells like demons, than with a cured sheep cheese, which also smells like demons, now that I think).

Okay, not a good example. Let’s move on.

Be passionate and ambitious.
This doesn’t mean you have to be at the top of the charts to be able to date a single woman and have everything go smoothly.

You may be out of work, your business may have just collapsed. Your house may just burn down with the five-year job inside.

First, let me tell you that if you try to have a date in these circumstances you are a crack and the woman you are going to see you with has to do with that ambition in every facet of your life.

We’re all at some point in the bottom of the Ferris wheel. The important thing is that the girl you want to become your follamiga sees that you have optimism and audacity to know that the Ferris wheel is short, that there is only one and that you have to take it by the horns.

(Wow, what a weird Ferris wheel).

It’s not just that I see you optimistic knowing that you’ll be back on top. She’ll want to see you at the controls of the Ferris wheel. Strange as it may be.

And you have to show them.

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It doesn’t matter if your job is routine and you can’t be passionate about it. A passionate person’s eyes sparkle when he talks about his passion, even if it’s something as fast-paced as river fly-fishing.

If someone has a passion for something it means that his heart is big and he understands that life has to be lived. That it is not enough to simply exist.

And that’s definitely sexy.

Listen, it’s an order.

To tell you the truth, it has taken me my whole life to understand this story: “Men don’t listen”. What do you mean we don’t listen? Men (except those with certain pathologies) have the auditory system that makes a superior mammal enjoy the sense of hearing, right? Are we crazy?

But little by little I have understood it. Every time my partner caught me thinking about a monkey with two saucers (to summarize a little) while he was talking to me, I understood the question.

Until once I made her cry. She was telling me something very important about the work and I tried by all means to understand Pedro Piqueras presenting the news.

I looked at her and listened to Piqueras. So I had 80% of the news on TV and 20% of what my partner told me.

This is a real piece of crap because you have the worst of the two pieces of information. The news was important and I didn’t have all the details and when my partner found out what was going on he couldn’t hold back his tears.

It looked like one of those Japanese animes with eyes chirping and weighing at the same time in a useless attempt to contain the tears.

Then I remembered my parents. At home the main problem has been communication. That’s where all the others came from.

And I understood.

Listening means asking interesting questions (because you’re interested in the answer) about what they’re telling you. And giving advice if they ask for it. It’s not about putting your ear and answering with monosyllables.

So, really, listen.

Maybe you’ll find that you’re interested in what he’s saying. Maybe not.

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Conclusion.

Be kind, ambitious and passionate and soon you will have a partner. But to do this you have to find people to date.